While there has always been a puritanical element to the world we live in, it’s no longer the domineering force it once was. If you stray outside the confines of a monogamous relationship, you won’t be forced to wear a scarlet letter on your clothes. Societal expectations can loom over you like a rain cloud, and while controlling the weather might be out of your hands, for the time being, breaking free from them is a very real probability.
The fact of the matter is this—self-denial of sexual gratification is nothing more than self-neglect. If you have a headache, you take an aspirin. If you want chocolate, you get a slice of cake. If you want to have your world rocked and your socks knocked off…then it’s time you recognize the need and take steps to alleviate it. The first step to this process is being honest with yourself and if possible, your partner. Your better half isn’t a mind reader. Being assertive with them and honest with yourself will help you achieve gratification much easier.